Oct 31, 2012

Does no sex mean a healthy relationship?


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Celebs debate whether Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart's month long no-sex agreement is the new therapy to heal relationships.

Twilight stars Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart have been trying to patch up after Kristen was photographed getting cozy with director Rupert Sanders in July. The couple has sought the help of a counsellor, who advised them to sign a no-sex pact. This means that even though the two share the same living space, they will sleep in separate rooms for a month while they 'work on communicating, healing wounds and trust exercises'. We explore whether this is a practical solution for couples. 

It's advisable 

City-based counsellor Ian Faria says this kind of advice is given to couples in troubled relationships. He says, "Both partners might have different sex desires — husbands might have a bigger one, while the wife, not so much. Taking a month-long sabbatical helps, because it frees the wife of sexual obligations and will help her gather her thoughts. Earlier, wives would take breaks every year and visit their parents' home with the children, which doesn't happen now. This lack of space can make it suffocating to be in a relationship." 

Abstinence is good 

Model Faith Panday thinks abstinence is a good thing and says, "Abstinence is probably the best decision to make while in a relationship. These days, love is replaced by sex, which, in turn, begets a string of negatives that our generation is getting used to, especially with what they see around them and on the big screen. But facades can change and mistakes can be reversed. If Robert Pattinson and Kirsten Stewart stay abstinent, good for them!" 

It's all a gimmick 

Fashion guru Prasad Bidapa thinks Robert and Kristen's no-sex pact might be a publicity stunt. "The timing seems suspect as their film is due for release soon. Nowadays, romance seems to be the most disposable thing. The personal lives of celebrities is always under scrutiny and they live under a lot of pressure, but when they don't get enough attention, they feel lost." 

By Taniya Talukdar, TNN